Friends in weird places

Imagine. Me. You don't know me. Probably. I'm not that interesting to know, unless you like computers, and even then, people who like computers probably don't socialize with others who like computers. I count on one hand the total number of friends I have. No, this isn't a pity party for me -- you should be so lucky to have friends in your circle. I don't particularly have time to spend on friends who live near me. By choice, probably. I make no pretenses about that. Home is safe. I can be able to be comfortable and still have contact with those people who make life worth living.

It amazes me the ability I have to influence other people, both professionally and socially. Not you, gentle reader. That you're reading my blog versus thousands of other whiny rants doesn't mean I'm influencing you. The point is more along the lines of how did I get my relationship information? To be honest, it starts with honesty and a sincere desire to assist people to Make Good Choices.

I have helped people stretch beyond their comfort zone into a social zone, and also have spurred people from inaction to action. Logic is best when it's served cold. Being unattached emotionally from a circumstance can provide a clearer picture over events in other people's lives. I think I'd term it "Perpendicularity" -- being able to see the line without being part of the line. Merely observing won't affect the trajectory, but certainly kibitzing of a sort can bring some positive outcomes. We'll see. As it stands, I'm mostly relying on the anecdotal evidence that when my advice is not followed, things aren't always resolved positively.

Then again, that's kinda the argument about the negativity of God, isn't it? I'm not positing myself in the realm of being God. However, assuming God gives good advice and it's not followed, why would one blame God for the result? I think people don't want to be told things. They simply want to be absolved of their own mistakes. I hope I can better offer prevention than absolution.

Love and Sex -- The Movie

Just finished watching the movie Love and Sex about a woman who has problems maintaining relationships. It's difficult to build a strong relationship and maintain it, as this film would have you understand. I can follow that premise. It's not that I have had long term relationships in the past -- unrequited love notwithstanding. I have really the evidence of my past dealings with my own family, my current positive relationships, and the renewed friendship of a past ojet du désir gone wrong, made aright.

People are complicated, strange creatures. Many have layers and layers of baggage and insecurities that interfere with the progression of good relationships. For good or naught, the leads of this movie must part before they can reunite stronger than ever. That is the hope promulgated by movies of this genre: absence makes the heart go fonder. I can't really put that in context of my own life. I'm currently in the longest relationship I have ever had, soon to enter its 10th year. And that relationship started with a simple instant message ... (more to come.)